"It's until Dad gets two DUI's, until Mom takes the kids out in the car and she's drunk and they get stopped by police. It's until these things happen ... "
That Stan Stokes says, is when people finally realize that they need help.
And Stokes would know, he's a recovering alcoholic. So, he took matters into his own hands and started "Bridging The Gap," an addiction treatment facility that incorporates the science of the brain into their recovery program.
"What we can do with the neuro feedback is actually train the brain if it's too fast to slow down," Says Director or Program Development, David Semanco.
"Science shows that if it's too slow, people tend to turn to drugs and if it's too fast, they drink."
David Semanco says people tend to turn to drugs and alcohol because it makes them feel normal. Nuero feedback changes that.
"Because they no longer need it, it doesn't give them any sort of reward; it no longer makes them feel normal."
This is how it works: clients play a video game and when the brain is doing what it should be doing, the rocket ship speeds up and racks up more points.
When the brain stops what it should be doing, the rocket ship will slow down and starts losing the game.
Clients hold a bear, it vibrates when the brain is responding correctly.
Essentially training it to be normal and not crave drugs or alcohol.
"I've seen improvement in a client in only one session. I've had clients who were not able to sleep for weeks at a time and they come in and have there first Neuro feedback session, by that night they're sleeping."
Stokes used this therapy to stop drinking, but like so many who come here, it was after he had lost a lot.
"It's not how much you drink, how often you drink. It's what happens to you when you drink.".."I had lost my family, I was divorced, I had changed."
People who use this kind of therapy go in five days a week to be treated. Stokes says neuro feedback has a 65-85% recovery rate, compared to more traditional therapy, which Stokes says has about a 20% success rate.